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The air tonight smells like summer of my childhood, radically bringing back memories of people, laughter, and love.

I remember Friday night meetings at Joseuncle’s house, hanging out on the stoop outside and being completely happy.

On the white cordless phone, windows open, the subway rumbling in the distance, talking all night, interrupted by a car alarm or two, finally drowsing off at 5 am or 6, when the light was breaking through, then sleeping in ’til noon with absolutely nothing to do the next day.

I see my baggy salvar pants and twirly-whirley salvar tops, my long hair, my glasses, and being 10 years older than I really was.

I think I even remember a summer evening, hanging out behind Herschell Street, probably when we were 6, and 7, and 10.  Plastic shoes.  Corduroy pants. 

The Bronx was a good place to grow up.  Yes, getting mugged or witnessing “Mari’s” boyfriend try to kill her or having the bar on the corner was all strange, but now it feels so strange remembering how secure life was.  I wonder how different life would have turned out if…

Instead, I thank God that He had a plan.  He spent a lot of time on me.  He prepared me.  He lit my path on fire.  Then He dropped the floor.  He let it rain.  He let it POUR.  He dried it up.  He was with me.  All for such a time as this. 

Thank you, God– for this life, for my family, for my experiences, for my pain, and most of all, for Your presence.  I love you and I’m eternally dedicated to you. 

All this.  Just from how the air smells tonight.

arm hair


[Sorry, Koche.  I will remember August as one of those months, and will try to plan better for next month.]

I was watching old episodes of 90210 and I noticed that Brenda Walsh has very visible arm hair (dark against her light skin).  Maybe I’m a little hyperalert, but I would opine that standards have changed and actresses these days can’t have armhair on a hit TV show.  What do you think?

what’s that word?


What’s that word when your gym is across the hall from McDonalds?

It’s not ironic, it’s…


supremely special wish


Dearest Rosamma,

You have been a selfless, true friend and inspiring mentor and colleague.  We have had many amazing memories and I look forward to many more.  I love you forever and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!




This is for you (the landscape you probably don’t recognize is Fargo, and everything else is either symbolic or memorable.)


Standing is Stupid


How I feel about working out:

Standing is Stupid
-Shel Silverstein

Standing is stupid,
Crawling’s a curse,
Skipping is silly,
Walking is worse.
Hopping is hopeless,
Jumping a chore,
Sitting is senseless,
Leaning’s a bore.
Running’s ridiculous.
Jogging’s insane–
Guess I’ll go upstairs and
Lie down again.



Inspired by this site, but uninspired by the verse they picked for me, I decided that, I too, can start my own business.  For a small fee, I will go through the entire Bible and find inspiring verses that correspond to your date of birth.  Of course I reserve the right to change things up a little for people whose birthdays fall on days like 11/29 or 12/31, considering many books don’t have that many chapters or verses. 

You can order your birthverse in card form but not in bracelet form, since people who wear jewelry could go to hell (it’s being decided in a committee meeting right now), but I also suggest the eternal, “post it on the internet where it will stay forever form.”

Here’s a sampling, using a simple birthday like April 24:

  • Deuteronomy 4:24 – For the LORD your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.
  • Joshua 4:24 – “…He did this so that all the peoples of the earth might know that the hand of the LORD is powerful and so that you might always fear the LORD your God.”
  • Proverbs 4:24 – Put away perversity from your mouth;
           keep corrupt talk far from your lips.
  • Jeremiah 4:24 – I looked at the mountains,
           and they were quaking;
           all the hills were swaying.
  • Mathew 4:24 – News about him spread all over Syria, and people brought to him all who were ill with various diseases, those suffering severe pain, the demon-possessed, those having seizures, and the paralyzed, and he healed them.
  • Mark 4:24 – “Consider carefully what you hear,” he continued. “With the measure you use, it will be measured to you—and even more.
  • Luke 4:24 – “I tell you the truth,” he continued, “no prophet is accepted in his hometown.
  • John 4:24 – “…God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth.”
  • Acts 4:24 – When they heard this, they raised their voices together in prayer to God. “Sovereign Lord,” they said, “you made the heaven and the earth and the sea, and everything in them….”
  • Romans 4:24 – but also for us, to whom God will credit righteousness—for us who believe in him who raised Jesus our Lord from the dead.
  • Ephesians 4:24 – and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.



Is including the word “allegedly” and “alleged attack” really necessary when the article goes on to say:

“The officers entered the residence and observed “blood all over the dining room and the kitchen,” according to borough police Detective Lt. Steve Seifried. “As they rounded the corner, they observed the husband leaning over in the kitchen stabbing her in the upper chest.””

I am glad to say that this reporter did NOT go out of her way to find people to say that he was a saint or a choirboy when he was younger.  Instead, there is a wonderful, accurate quote by a friend of the victim about this not being caused by an arranged marriage.

“Athough the marriage of the couple 13 years ago was arranged by their families in India, Jagdish said he did not think that the dominance and controlling nature described by neighbors of the alleged assailant was cultural.

“It’s the personality of the person, not something cultural, otherwise it would happen in all Indian families” said Jagdish, who is Indian. “Killing your own wife … that’s inhuman, isn’t it?””

Yes, Jagdish, it is inhuman.  I am sorry for the loss of your friend, the lovely Pratixabhaven Patel, and condolences to her entire family.  May you find peace in this horrible situation. 

Also wanted to point out that Manavi is the local South Asian domestic violence organization in New Jersey, helping prevent further tragedies like this one.  If you need help, please call.

“I was shocked, but…”


A modification on the beautiful statement that Laura Ling made this afternoon.

Suddenly I was told I was going to a meeting.  I was taken to a location and when I walked in through the doors, I saw standing before me………..Jesus Christ.

I was shocked, but I knew instantly in my heart, that the nightmare of my life was finally at an end, and now I stand here, home and free.

It means so much to get it.

“the fire was on her face”


“As he ran, Ikhlaq Hameed glanced back and saw his aunt. “She tried to come out, but the fire caught her,” he said. “The fire was on her face.”” [link]

Aunty, this morning you are waking up to the King of Glory.  You have no fire on your face but HE is surrounded by a firmament so bright that you cannot look directly at Him.  Wear your crown proudly.

malayalam monday: twinkle, twinkle little star


If you think being Indian means just one thing, you are missing out.  The two videos below are great examples of the variety among states, regions, and religions.  I can think of at least 2 people I want to send this to, because they are that oblivious.

Video 1: It’s a little longer than the 2nd video (6:34) but has a wider range of regions and shows off the talent of this amazing performer.

Video 2: Briefer, funnier, same performer, but it’s a clip from the actual show it aired on– apparently a Tamil show called Kasalavu Nesam.  After the sitcom part, there is a strange piece that ends with a rocking version of Jack & Jill.

I love the Tamil and Punjabi versions, and the best part of the Malayalam one is the bharatanatyam moves.